A recording of my presentation at the Follow the Sun 2012 conference on finding the pedagogical spot that is not too hard, not too soft, but just right. The context was open learning and my take on this was that open access is only part of the story. For learning to be truly open, learners need to be in control of their learning and, in particular, this implies the power to choose whether and when to delegate control to another. I examine the generations of distance learning pedagogies with a view to modelling their distinctive freedoms, noting that all have some weaknesses and that a holist solution, combining all and aggregating them via emergent collectives, seems to be the most promising approach.